Roy W. Kincaid

Roy Wallace Kincaid, 80 years old, passed away peacefully on March 8, 2025, at the Mountain View Nursing Home in Ellensburg, Washington.

Roy was born February 10, 1945, to Roy Sidney and Emily (Parkhurst) Kincaid in Bremerton at the Naval Hospital. He spent his growing up years in Spokane WA. Roy graduated from Lewis & Clark High School in 1963. After taking a year off of school to work and make money for college, Roy went to WSU in the fall of ‘64. Roy met Betty Joy Sanders in the spring of ‘65 and they were married six months later. Roy was unable to pay for his senior year of college, so he went to work for Pacific Northwest Bell in 1967, and was drafted into the Army later that year. He served his country in the Vietnam War from ‘68 to ‘69.

Roy and Betty welcomed their daughter Lisa in 1969, and two years later their son Lane was born. They raised their family in Renton/Newcastle in the home they bought in 1970. Family vacations were enjoyed by all, whether it was camping in the Aloha Trailer at Ocean Shores, visiting the grandparents in Walla Walla and Spokane, or camping and fishing at Mayfield Lake/Mossy Rock. Roy loved bowling, billiards, reading (A LOT), going for walks, playing cards, camping, fishing, and betting on the horses at Long Acres (and later at Emerald Downs). He was an avid sports fan, rooting for WSU, Seahawks, Sonics, and Mariners. Roy was an even bigger fan of rooting for his kids in all of their activities (ballet, track, drill team, choir, gymnastics, soccer, wrestling, etc). Roy gave Lisa her love of football, reading, and all things WSU from a young age. Roy gave Lane his love of bowling, billiards, and they could (and would) play video games together for hours. Betty and Roy divorced in 1993, but maintained a friendly relationship throughout the years.

Roy went back to work for PNB in 1969, and worked for PNB/US West until he took early retirement in 1990. After PNB, he worked for Regence Blue Shield and then P.H.A.M.I.S. During these years, you could also find Roy donating countless hours and effort to The Kiwanis Club and United Way.

Travel was something Roy thoroughly enjoyed. He loved touring across the United States for a couple years in a giant motorhome, stopping to see family and friends along the way. England, Scotland, Switzerland, Bali, and Japan were some of his favorite international trips. He racked up a lot of frequent flyer miles over the years.

In 1999, Roy set off on another adventure, he relocated to Kailua-Kona and got certified as a massage therapist. He worked at the Waikola Hilton as a massage therapist for over 20 years. He truly loved his job, and the fact it let him be sociable, meet people from across the world, hear clients’ stories, and share his own tales.

In 2023, Roy was ready to move back stateside, and moved in with his son Lane, and his family in Ellensburg. Dementia was affecting Roy the last four years of his life, but he continued to enjoy his family, old friends, and make new friends everywhere he went.

Roy’s lifetime love of dancing could be summed up by one of his favorite T-shirts that said “I dance. What is your superpower?” With a mischievous gleam in his eye and moves as smooth as Fred Astaire, he loved to glide across the dance floor. He always made sure that every lady that wanted to dance had the opportunity to shine as he sailed them across the room. Dancing was a constant in Roy's life, from ballet as a youngster, the Silver Spurs Dance group in high school, Round + Square Dancing in the 70s and 80s, teaching and competing in ballroom dancing in the 90s, winning ‘Best Amateur Dancers’ trophies, having a dance move named after him, going on dance cruises around the Caribbean, to dancing all across the Big Island. He danced until the end, twirling the nurses in the hallways at Avista Assisted Living after he moved in last September.

Roy was preceded in death by his father Roy Sidney Kincaid, mother Emily (Parkhurst) Kincaid, and sister Susanne Johnson. He is survived by his daughter Lisa (w. Lisa), son Lane (w. Kari Jo), grandchildren Lane Jr, Jack, and Emily, sisters Kristine (Wisher) Kincaid & Rosemary Hopkins, brother Jack Kincaid, and multiple nieces and nephews, great nieces and nephews, and great-great nieces and nephews.

Roy’s life was filled with all of the things he loved. He found his Aloha, and he lived his life his way.

A celebration of life will be held at Gene Coulon Park, Renton, Washington, in the Creekside Picnic Shelter, on Saturday, June 21, 2025, from 12-4pm.

In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to the Seattle Services For The Blind.